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- Margaret Atwood



Is the expression of exhaustion a sign of ungratefulness?
Some weeks back someone I know posted a quote that said: “how nice is it to be exhausted from the things we prayed for.” So when I shared about how exhausted I was about work trips I was scheduled to take, my sisters’ reminder that I prayed for all this hit me like a ton of ice. I sobered up quickly and remembered… See, growing up, one of my favourite past times was magazine reading – something my mom passed on to me. I enjoyed the features, testing my knowledge with crosswor

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1 day ago3 min read


Grieving again through conversations and someone else’s loss
One thing I’ve come to learn is that grief is not a linear journey. It doesn’t follow a schedule and it certainly doesn’t fold neatly. For many, the pain of loss softens over time but it never truly disappears. It lingers quietly, tucked away in the corners of our hearts until something or someone brings it back, most times, unintentionally. One of the most unexpected triggers for this resurgence is witnessing someone else’s grief or conversations around holiday plans. When s

Refilwe
Nov 283 min read


Parenting: the gift and its challenges
Parenting is a profound gift that many of us are blessed to receive at some stage in our lives. It is a journey filled with unexpected twists, turns and challenges, yet it remains a gift that continues to enrich us in unique and meaningful ways. Becoming a parent is a life-changing experience. It demands an unwavering commitment to nurturing and guiding our children, shaping their characters and ensuring their well-being. The role of a parent requires us to dedicate our time

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Nov 173 min read


From city lights to coastal breezes: a 3-day NEV road trip across South Africa
Although I’m not an enthusiastic early riser, there’s something magical about hitting the open road before sunrise. The excitement and...

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Oct 103 min read


After the Fires: Unlocking the Power of Letting Go by Nozipho Tshabalala
I recently attended Nozipho Tshabalala ’s book launch for her debut work, After the Fires: Unlocking the Power of Letting Go , Published...

Refilwe
Sep 53 min read


The peace that comes with showing up fully as yourself
From Limpopo, South Africa to the world. Khodani's journey is a reflection of what it means to believe in oneself, to have support, the...

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Aug 296 min read


The call to obedience: a journey of discomfort and fulfilment
Cerita Nagy, Founder: Confident Women in Business What about women makes you tick? It’s their resilience, their ability to carry so much...

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Aug 248 min read


Staying soft in a world that rewards hardness
A story of one woman's resilience in the wake of a deadly illness - she's a waking miracle.

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Aug 176 min read


Becoming: A journey of reinvention, healing, and building Silo Luxury
There is just something so powerful and sacred about becoming. It’s not always graceful, and that is what makes it beautiful - the...

Nonku Kubheka
Aug 105 min read


Dear Women, Happy Women’s Day
A message for women in commemoration of Women's Day.

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Aug 92 min read
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Grieving again through conversations and someone else’s loss
One thing I’ve come to learn is that grief is not a linear journey. It doesn’t follow a schedule and it certainly doesn’t fold neatly. For many, the pain of loss softens over time but it never truly disappears. It lingers quietly, tucked away in the corners of our hearts until something or someone brings it back, most times, unintentionally. One of the most unexpected triggers for this resurgence is witnessing someone else’s grief or conversations around holiday plans. When s

Refilwe
Nov 283 min read


The call to obedience: a journey of discomfort and fulfilment
Cerita Nagy, Founder: Confident Women in Business What about women makes you tick? It’s their resilience, their ability to carry so much...

Refilwe
Aug 248 min read


Becoming: A journey of reinvention, healing, and building Silo Luxury
There is just something so powerful and sacred about becoming. It’s not always graceful, and that is what makes it beautiful - the...

Nonku Kubheka
Aug 105 min read


Global Report: The state of youth - challenges and opportunities
Youth Month in South Africa, observed in June, honours the youth of 1976 for their role in the fight against apartheid. This year's...

Refilwe
Jul 66 min read


Don’t Mom like me: the journey of parenting with a twist
It’s international Bontle day today!✨✨✨ On this day, 12 years ago at 20:35, I gave birth to a bouncy baby girl. I will sum up my birth...

Refilwe
Mar 73 min read


When God’s timing disrupts your plans
What joy is it when your plans get disrupted by the move of God?

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Dec 2, 20244 min read


Reasons why you should screw it and just do it: lessons from my July reads
Greatest lessons from my July reads

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Jul 21, 20243 min read


An unexpected journey: The Adventures With Bontle story
The untold story of one of Africa's youngest authors.

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Jul 7, 20244 min read


Gratitude amidst a mayday season
9 years ago on this day, 1 May, my family and I were getting ready to take a dreadful trip to the homelands to go bury my darling mother....

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May 1, 20244 min read


9-on-9: key highlights from the Forbes Woman Africa Leading Women Summit
“The emancipation of women is not merely a charitable act but a fundamental necessity for societal progress.” Samora Machel 8 March...

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Mar 22, 20246 min read


Navigating life through the lens of loss: things I’m relearning about life
Navigating life through the lens of loss.

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Feb 25, 20243 min read


Valentine's Day: Is it a Celebration of Love or an all-sorts Contest?
Since the beginning of February, Bontle has been all talk about Valentine’s Day and who is whose valentines at school, etc. During these...

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Feb 19, 20244 min read


Unpacking the Myth: The Possibility of Having Your Cake and Eating It Too in Leadership
What are your favourite things? Things that are your go to things? Sometimes we love these things so much that they are set up as...

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Jan 22, 20244 min read


My 2023 reading list
I'm currently busy with my 2023 reflections and in as much as I did well in some areas of my life and smashed my goals, on the...

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Dec 30, 20233 min read


Pause. Live.
Reflections from a recent spontaneous trip Is it just me who feels like the days and months have just been moving at the fastest speed...

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Nov 28, 20234 min read


A million little miracles, all around
In our pursuit of positive and impactful change, we journey along life, inspired and challenged by what’s surrounding us.

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May 24, 20233 min read


Staying connected to the main source
What are you rooted in?

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Apr 19, 20232 min read


Checklist for perfect motherhood
√ Spotless home √ Children adhere to sleep times √ Always on time for school and events √ Children always “well-mannered” √ Hearty...

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Nov 22, 20224 min read


Faith in action
Let me tell you a lil story about faith. When I took leave for a whole week, before a work event, I'd thought I booked my flights. Whilst...

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Nov 14, 20224 min read


Growing pains
Growing up I always felt like something was missing. If it wasn’t a close-knit, happy family, creating joyful memories together it was me...

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Oct 19, 20224 min read
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