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Grieving again through conversations and someone else’s loss
One thing I’ve come to learn is that grief is not a linear journey. It doesn’t follow a schedule and it certainly doesn’t fold neatly. For many, the pain of loss softens over time but it never truly disappears. It lingers quietly, tucked away in the corners of our hearts until something or someone brings it back, most times, unintentionally. One of the most unexpected triggers for this resurgence is witnessing someone else’s grief or conversations around holiday plans. When s

Refilwe
Nov 283 min read


Parenting: the gift and its challenges
Parenting is a profound gift that many of us are blessed to receive at some stage in our lives. It is a journey filled with unexpected twists, turns and challenges, yet it remains a gift that continues to enrich us in unique and meaningful ways. Becoming a parent is a life-changing experience. It demands an unwavering commitment to nurturing and guiding our children, shaping their characters and ensuring their well-being. The role of a parent requires us to dedicate our time

Refilwe
Nov 173 min read


From city lights to coastal breezes: a 3-day NEV road trip across South Africa
Although I’m not an enthusiastic early riser, there’s something magical about hitting the open road before sunrise. The excitement and...

Refilwe
Oct 103 min read


After the Fires: Unlocking the Power of Letting Go by Nozipho Tshabalala
I recently attended Nozipho Tshabalala ’s book launch for her debut work, After the Fires: Unlocking the Power of Letting Go , Published...

Refilwe
Sep 53 min read


The peace that comes with showing up fully as yourself
From Limpopo, South Africa to the world. Khodani's journey is a reflection of what it means to believe in oneself, to have support, the...

Refilwe
Aug 296 min read


The call to obedience: a journey of discomfort and fulfilment
Cerita Nagy, Founder: Confident Women in Business What about women makes you tick? It’s their resilience, their ability to carry so much...

Refilwe
Aug 248 min read


Staying soft in a world that rewards hardness
A story of one woman's resilience in the wake of a deadly illness - she's a waking miracle.

Refilwe
Aug 176 min read


Becoming: A journey of reinvention, healing, and building Silo Luxury
There is just something so powerful and sacred about becoming. It’s not always graceful, and that is what makes it beautiful - the...

Nonku Kubheka
Aug 105 min read


Dear Women, Happy Women’s Day
A message for women in commemoration of Women's Day.

Refilwe
Aug 92 min read


Global Report: The state of youth - challenges and opportunities
Youth Month in South Africa, observed in June, honours the youth of 1976 for their role in the fight against apartheid. This year's...

Refilwe
Jul 66 min read
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Grieving again through conversations and someone else’s loss
One thing I’ve come to learn is that grief is not a linear journey. It doesn’t follow a schedule and it certainly doesn’t fold neatly. For many, the pain of loss softens over time but it never truly disappears. It lingers quietly, tucked away in the corners of our hearts until something or someone brings it back, most times, unintentionally. One of the most unexpected triggers for this resurgence is witnessing someone else’s grief or conversations around holiday plans. When s

Refilwe
Nov 283 min read


From city lights to coastal breezes: a 3-day NEV road trip across South Africa
Although I’m not an enthusiastic early riser, there’s something magical about hitting the open road before sunrise. The excitement and...

Refilwe
Oct 103 min read


After the Fires: Unlocking the Power of Letting Go by Nozipho Tshabalala
I recently attended Nozipho Tshabalala ’s book launch for her debut work, After the Fires: Unlocking the Power of Letting Go , Published...

Refilwe
Sep 53 min read


The Unexpected Price Tag: Exploring the Cost of Befriending the Unknown
The cost of befriending the unknown by taking a leap.

Refilwe
Feb 52 min read


Reasons why you should screw it and just do it: lessons from my July reads
Greatest lessons from my July reads

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Jul 21, 20243 min read


9-on-9: key highlights from the Forbes Woman Africa Leading Women Summit
“The emancipation of women is not merely a charitable act but a fundamental necessity for societal progress.” Samora Machel 8 March...

Refilwe
Mar 22, 20246 min read


Navigating life through the lens of loss: things I’m relearning about life
Navigating life through the lens of loss.

Refilwe
Feb 25, 20243 min read


Valentine's Day: Is it a Celebration of Love or an all-sorts Contest?
Since the beginning of February, Bontle has been all talk about Valentine’s Day and who is whose valentines at school, etc. During these...

Refilwe
Feb 19, 20244 min read


Sin not, oh perfect one
This one is for Christians! Something has been gnawing at me for some time now. When TD Jakes trended regarding his association with P...

Refilwe
Jan 28, 20243 min read


Unpacking the Myth: The Possibility of Having Your Cake and Eating It Too in Leadership
What are your favourite things? Things that are your go to things? Sometimes we love these things so much that they are set up as...

Refilwe
Jan 22, 20244 min read


Corporate Shandis – a toolkit to help you survive the corporate world
Today was my first day back at work - what an eventful day it was! The day was a mixed bag filled with melodious “compliments of the new...

Refilwe
Jan 15, 20243 min read


4 things 2023 taught me
The end of the year and the beginning of a new one always presents an opportunity to reflect. For the past three years, I’ve gotten into...

Refilwe
Jan 5, 20244 min read


The Joy of Missing Out
December blues got you already? If you are still grinding at work like me, it can sometimes feel like you are missing out on something...

Refilwe
Dec 12, 20233 min read


Pause. Live.
Reflections from a recent spontaneous trip Is it just me who feels like the days and months have just been moving at the fastest speed...

Refilwe
Nov 28, 20234 min read


We are One.
Whilst doing research on a topic very close to my heart, the concept of oneness kept echoing in my spirit. As a human race, the lives we...

Refilwe
Aug 13, 20233 min read


Shake it off
What are you carrying that’s weighing you down?

Refilwe
Jun 21, 20231 min read


A million little miracles, all around
In our pursuit of positive and impactful change, we journey along life, inspired and challenged by what’s surrounding us.

Refilwe
May 24, 20233 min read


Healing Journey: this too shall pass (Part 2)
This week I continue where I left off by sharing part 2 of the six things I learnt throughout my “this too shall pass” seasons. If you...

Refilwe
May 16, 20233 min read


Healing Journey: this too shall pass (Part 1)
Sometime in March, I was invited by MM Communications to speak to an audience of women from all walks of life on the theme, “this too...

Refilwe
May 9, 20233 min read


Faith in action
Let me tell you a lil story about faith. When I took leave for a whole week, before a work event, I'd thought I booked my flights. Whilst...

Refilwe
Nov 14, 20224 min read
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