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- Margaret Atwood



Is the expression of exhaustion a sign of ungratefulness?
Some weeks back someone I know posted a quote that said: “how nice is it to be exhausted from the things we prayed for.” So when I shared about how exhausted I was about work trips I was scheduled to take, my sisters’ reminder that I prayed for all this hit me like a ton of ice. I sobered up quickly and remembered… See, growing up, one of my favourite past times was magazine reading – something my mom passed on to me. I enjoyed the features, testing my knowledge with crosswor

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Grieving again through conversations and someone else’s loss
One thing I’ve come to learn is that grief is not a linear journey. It doesn’t follow a schedule and it certainly doesn’t fold neatly. For many, the pain of loss softens over time but it never truly disappears. It lingers quietly, tucked away in the corners of our hearts until something or someone brings it back, most times, unintentionally. One of the most unexpected triggers for this resurgence is witnessing someone else’s grief or conversations around holiday plans. When s

Refilwe
Nov 283 min read


Parenting: the gift and its challenges
Parenting is a profound gift that many of us are blessed to receive at some stage in our lives. It is a journey filled with unexpected twists, turns and challenges, yet it remains a gift that continues to enrich us in unique and meaningful ways. Becoming a parent is a life-changing experience. It demands an unwavering commitment to nurturing and guiding our children, shaping their characters and ensuring their well-being. The role of a parent requires us to dedicate our time

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Nov 173 min read


From city lights to coastal breezes: a 3-day NEV road trip across South Africa
Although I’m not an enthusiastic early riser, there’s something magical about hitting the open road before sunrise. The excitement and...

Refilwe
Oct 103 min read


After the Fires: Unlocking the Power of Letting Go by Nozipho Tshabalala
I recently attended Nozipho Tshabalala ’s book launch for her debut work, After the Fires: Unlocking the Power of Letting Go , Published...

Refilwe
Sep 53 min read


The peace that comes with showing up fully as yourself
From Limpopo, South Africa to the world. Khodani's journey is a reflection of what it means to believe in oneself, to have support, the...

Refilwe
Aug 296 min read


The call to obedience: a journey of discomfort and fulfilment
Cerita Nagy, Founder: Confident Women in Business What about women makes you tick? It’s their resilience, their ability to carry so much...

Refilwe
Aug 248 min read


Staying soft in a world that rewards hardness
A story of one woman's resilience in the wake of a deadly illness - she's a waking miracle.

Refilwe
Aug 176 min read


Becoming: A journey of reinvention, healing, and building Silo Luxury
There is just something so powerful and sacred about becoming. It’s not always graceful, and that is what makes it beautiful - the...

Nonku Kubheka
Aug 105 min read


Dear Women, Happy Women’s Day
A message for women in commemoration of Women's Day.

Refilwe
Aug 92 min read
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Dancing to the same tune in marriage
A deep passion for witnessing and experiencing solid family structures exist in our society has long been entrenched in my heart. This...

Refilwe
Feb 204 min read


Reasons why you should screw it and just do it: lessons from my July reads
Greatest lessons from my July reads

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Jul 21, 20243 min read


Gratitude amidst a mayday season
9 years ago on this day, 1 May, my family and I were getting ready to take a dreadful trip to the homelands to go bury my darling mother....

Refilwe
May 1, 20244 min read


Navigating life through the lens of loss: things I’m relearning about life
Navigating life through the lens of loss.

Refilwe
Feb 25, 20243 min read


Valentine's Day: Is it a Celebration of Love or an all-sorts Contest?
Since the beginning of February, Bontle has been all talk about Valentine’s Day and who is whose valentines at school, etc. During these...

Refilwe
Feb 19, 20244 min read


Sin not, oh perfect one
This one is for Christians! Something has been gnawing at me for some time now. When TD Jakes trended regarding his association with P...

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Jan 28, 20243 min read


4 things 2023 taught me
The end of the year and the beginning of a new one always presents an opportunity to reflect. For the past three years, I’ve gotten into...

Refilwe
Jan 5, 20244 min read


Checklist for perfect motherhood
√ Spotless home √ Children adhere to sleep times √ Always on time for school and events √ Children always “well-mannered” √ Hearty...

Refilwe
Nov 22, 20224 min read


Growing pains
Growing up I always felt like something was missing. If it wasn’t a close-knit, happy family, creating joyful memories together it was me...

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Oct 19, 20224 min read


Spiritual Detox Programme Reflections
Ever had a yearning to feel grounded, but you find yourself soaring on unhelpful activities that further impact negatively on your soul?

Refilwe
Oct 9, 20226 min read


Extraordinary living for ordinary peeps
We are all ordinary people with extraordinary capabilities. BUT, unless you believe in your extraordinary capabilities ...

Refilwe
May 23, 20222 min read


Make things happen
Do you feel like life is passing you by? Here are some tips on making things happen!

Refilwe
Mar 31, 20224 min read


82 days later…
The start of a new year has always brought with it great excitement, in anticipation of what lies ahead. But this year was different for...

Refilwe
Mar 23, 20224 min read


March Self-Care Guide
Hello March A brand new month - the last month of quarter one - is upon us. I don’t know if it’s just me but it seems time moves really...

Refilwe
Mar 3, 20225 min read


Growing pains
When we set goals, we do so from a deep yearning of wanting to be more than what we are presently.

Refilwe
Feb 9, 20223 min read


Why are you so assumptious?
An assumptious person makes a lot of assumptions, period. The Oxford Dictionary defines assumptions as: “a thing that is accepted as true...

Refilwe
Jan 10, 20223 min read


Sizing up God
Most times it is because we are afraid that we are just big dreamers but nothing will really come to fruition. We label our dreams as ...

Refilwe
Dec 9, 20213 min read


6 reminders for the new season
YES! Finally! Spring has sprung and we are here, waiting on the flowers to bloom. But don't just wait for the flowers to bloom, join in...

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Sep 8, 20212 min read
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