Updated: Apr 3, 2021
For as long as I can remember, I've struggled with insecurities. I've struggled with this feeling of not being enough. Not quite good enough. Not beautiful enough. Not intelligent enough. Not having the perfect body. The list goes on...
What I have come to realise is that I AM ENOUGH. I am who and what I need to be. I need not measure myself against world views of other people, my past experiences or even situations I find myself in. When we give them room to grow, insecurities can cripple us, . They manifest, leaving us weakened, disengaged and dis-empowered. We lose control of the very life we are trying to keep intact. Wondering in the wilderness on a quest to find who are we, we lose ourselves.
Most of my insecurities were borne from childhood experiences and I've dragged them into adulthood. The thing about insecurities is that, they are very much linked to limiting beliefs we impose on ourselves. In most cases, these stem from our perspectives and not necessarily from reality.
Yes, limiting beliefs and insecurities can distort reality. For example, a loved one will affirm us in a certain way but because of our insecurities and beliefs about the self, we tend to unconsciously go out of our way to discredit what is being said about us.
So, to counter this, I've used the time during lockdown to work on myself. Reframing some of these ideologies has been a challenging but fruitful journey.
A journey I would encourage you to undertake.